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Hello, Friend,
I hope you are doing well. I wanted to take some time and share with you the story behind Monica Wisdom Coaching and why I am passionate about helping clients reach for new possibilities.
The unexpected pause of 2020 became a canvas for reevaluation, a time when I delved into a 35-year career as an entrepreneur. I reflect on the various projects and the incredible people I’ve been blessed to work with. From Sebastian International to the Isley Brothers, these were doors society said I would never cross.
But the truth is, I didn’t push through solely for the love of it. I did it because people told me I couldn’t. Black, a woman, and considered overweight, my trainer at Sebastian told me I wouldn’t make it. Despite the challenges, I was an educator for 8 years and became Director of Education for Salon Resources. Essence magazine denied my dream of becoming a writer, yet I became Director of Operations for Today in Church Magazine, interviewing celebrities like Eric Roberson, Kirk Whalum, and Vonetta Flower. Every time someone told me I couldn’t, I responded with, “Watch me work.” I was determined to defy gravity.
Every story I share stems from a deep desire to remind people, especially marginalized individuals, that we all have the power to defy gravity. In 2023, as I took a deeper dive into my purpose and passion, the needle landed on coaching. It’s the culmination of my life’s work—helping people defy gravity in their lives, build bold ideas, and embrace their divine power.
In 2023, I ensured my personal development as a business person, acquiring an education in women’s entrepreneurship from Cornell University and graduating from the Nasdaq Milestones mentorship program. Combined with my studies in coaching, I felt ready to take on the world.
In 2024, success isn’t just about constructing ideas; it’s about embracing personal transformation. Recognizing that many seek more than extensive courses, they crave a space to be heard, address specific concerns, and receive answers to their burning questions. This realization fueled the creation of Monica Wisdom Coaching.
We all deserve a champion in our corner, and with years of experience as a wise counsel behind the scenes, I’m extending a heartfelt invitation to book your discovery session with Monica Wisdom Coaching.
Let’s collaborate to provide the guidance you need for confident strides forward. Click the link to reserve your Discovery Call. Let’s chat about how I can help you defy gravity, build an idea, or make that next big decision.
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Here’s to your soulful and empowered journey ahead!
Warm Regards,
Monica Wisdom,
Monica Wisdom Coaching (BOOK HERE)
Hello Queens,
I hope you are well and thriving. Another memoir is heading our way and I wonder if I am interested in reading it.
Jada Pinkett Smith is a complex tapestry of experiences, a multi-layered persona that never fails to astound. Her recent revelation about her seven-year separation from Will Smith, while still being married, has ignited a flurry of discussions. Some may say, “Who cares?” as we’ve seemingly heard so much about their relationship. Yet, beneath the surface, there’s something that feels unspoken as if there’s more to the story.
At first glance, you might wonder why she’s sharing this deeply personal tale with the world. It’s a fair question. After all, what drives someone to reveal such intimate details? But let’s be honest; most of us haven’t yet delved into the pages of her book to find the answer.
Having briefly crossed paths with Will and Jada and knowing people who’ve worked with them, I can vouch for their character. They are good people. However, like many of us, their lives are not without complexities. The key difference is that they live under the constant scrutiny of the public eye, navigating their personal lives and careers on a grand stage.
When you observe their dynamic, you can’t help but notice a pattern. We often hear about their relationship from Jada’s perspective, while Will remains guarded. He rarely speaks about her outside of family or work contexts. There’s a protective shield he puts around her, and vice versa, well, most of the time.
This raises questions. Does Jada ever feel that her voice won’t be heard unless it’s intertwined with Will’s? It’s crucial to remember that she’s a talented actress. In the past, she was the “it girl.” She was the leading lady. But when she became Mrs. Will Smith, her career seemed to take a backseat. Is there an underlying resentment?
I’m not here to gossip, but I’m examining this situation from the perspective of countless women who have relinquished some of their autonomy in pursuit of a traditional marriage, driven by ideals rather than reality.
In the world of relationships, we find couples leading separate lives, inhabiting different corners of the house or even different cities. Some are best friends rather than romantic partners. Marriages are forged for reasons ranging from convenience, and security, to power. Love, while paramount, is not without its struggles. Even Michelle Obama once confessed that she couldn’t stand her husband for the first ten years of their marriage.
While I might still find myself in the midst of not caring, I believe that Jada is contributing to the broader conversation initiated by Michelle Obama. It’s a call for honesty in relationships. The romanticized notions of “couple goals” and “black love” have pushed us farther away from the raw, unfiltered truth of what marriage truly entails. It’s a pact, a promise shared by two people. Disney’s magic has painted it as a fairytale.
The truth is that relationships can be arduous when the chemistry is off. The question that lingers is whether Jada is contemplating her identity outside of the shadow of Will Smith. She sacrificed so much to be with him, to live within his concept of marriage. Perhaps this book marks her journey towards personal freedom, truth, and inner justice. It could be her way of feeling worthy enough to have her voice heard. And maybe, it’s her exploration of who she is when she’s not defined by someone else’s identity. Especially someone as powerful as a Hollywood icon. Somewhere along the way, the castle he built for her might have started to resemble a prison.
These thoughts are not merely gossip or idle musings; they reflect the broader reality that many of us lead dual lives. The one the world sees and the one that stares back at us in the mirror.
So, when I wonder why Jada is sharing her story, it’s not because I don’t care about her marriage stories. Instead, I’m genuinely curious about what she’s freeing as she unveils her truth and journey. I hope she wholeheartedly embraces herself and recognizes the audacity to be fully Jada Pinkett, without the Smith.”
If you are interested in reading Worthy by Jada you can check it out HERE.
Chat Soon,
Monica Wisdom
Hello Moguls,
As women entrepreneurs, we crave a life of freedom and ease. However, we’ve been conditioned to believe that we must grind endlessly until we reach a certain point when everything will miraculously become easier. We associate this with having more money, better credentials, and more experience.
But the harsh truth is that this relentless hustle-and-grind mentality is taking a severe toll on our lives, impacting us mentally, physically, and emotionally. It’s time to reconsider this way of life, not our goals and aspirations, but how we go about achieving them. There is a path to success that doesn’t require us to do it all.
The concept of being a multi-passionate entrepreneur is fantastic, especially when you have a team and another income source supporting your business. However, we’ve shifted our focus from quality to quantity, and we’ve become trapped in a never-ending cycle of managing all our multiple entities, yearning to escape the reality we’ve created.
Let’s be clear; you’ve created your current situation. Yes, you’ve manifested it. Manifesting isn’t just about attracting new cars and parking spaces; it’s about the energy you claim as yours. This includes your complaints, fears, and challenges. All of it contributes to the way you operate in business.
Consider this: you’d operate entirely differently if you felt secure in your ecosystem. But when you have too many irons in the fire, you’re constantly anxious about neglecting something.
We often hear about work-life balance, but what if we aimed to become “un-busy”? It’s a concept I just coined, but it makes sense. What if we could achieve our goals and aspirations but simplify how we do it?
Is it possible to have just one offering instead of ten and still make the same income? Absolutely. It’s like the difference between a boutique and a department store. One offers high-quality products, while the other caters to everyone. The key is understanding what you have the capacity for. Do you have the income, revenue, space, and technology for a full-time staff like a department store, or do you have a desk, a computer, and Wi-Fi? Get clear about where you are before focusing on where you want to go.
In our last post, I mentioned that we’d discuss brainstorming. It’s a crucial part of any development process. All you need is a pen and some paper. Write down your chosen subject at the top of the page, ask yourself a question, and jot down all the answers without editing yourself.
As you strive to streamline your efforts to achieve your goals, increase your personal time, and attain the freedom you desire, ask yourself, “What else can I do to reach my goals?” When you answer these questions, you’ll begin your journey towards time freedom and release the pressure of trying to do it all.
The “all” is the part we need to streamline to start living our dream life now, rather than postponing it for later.
In our next post, we’ll delve into what streamlining could look like for you.
Best wishes,
Monica Wisdom
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Hello,
We all have a unique story waiting to be told. However, the thought of sharing it can feel strange and scary. The fear of being judged or not accepted can be overwhelming, making it difficult to embrace our own story. It’s important to know that we don’t have to share everything; just what is transformative to us. It helps remove the guilt and shame that we have attached to it. It’s an act of self-love and honesty.
Your story is our power and sharing it closes the gap in our dual life and aligns us with self-integrity. We can walk into a room without fear of being found out or shamed. Embracing our story helps us build confidence and see ourselves from a new perspective. We can own our narrative and use it to empower ourselves and others.
Let’s explore how you can own your narrative, embrace your story, and use it to transform your life. It’s time to celebrate the miracle that is you. Here are some tips to help you get started:
- Reflect on your journey: What are the events that have shaped you? What are the lessons you’ve learned along the way? Write down these events and what you learned about yourself.
- Find your voice: It’s essential to find your voice and use it to express yourself authentically.
- Release the shame: Write down the events that make you feel ashamed, and try to see them from a different perspective. What can you learn from those events? How can you turn them into a positive experience?
- Connect with others: Find a support group, a mentor, or a friend who can provide a safe space for you to share your story.
- Celebrate your victories: Write down your accomplishments, and take time to celebrate them.
In conclusion, owning your narrative means embracing your story and using it to empower yourself and others. It’s time to celebrate the miracle that is you. By sharing, you release the shame and guilt that may hold you back. Embrace your story, find your voice, and connect with others.
All Love,
Monica Wisdom
PS. Check out our latest podcast episode on the Black Women Amplified Podcast.